Not everybody is the same…
We humans live in a causal world. Every action of ours is an effect of a cause. When we have no control over the cause, eventually the effect too will be one over which we don’t have much control. In short ‘We lack Free Will’.
Coming to the topic about which I wanted to express my personal views, We meet different kind of people all along our life, we try to understand them,judge them, make a mental image. All this is causal, we observe their appearances,actions & words, we analyze & judge…But almost every time we interact with people, we get to see only a part of an individual & the mental image we build is incomplete.
We learn not only from our experiences but also from experiences of people around us. These experiences will have a huge say in the way we will act or react. Most of the times we tend to generalize these experiences and use this knowledge to evaluate people. The chances of mis-evaluation are less but once in a while we will be wrong.
I don’t believe in love at first sight. How could you love someone just because one is looking more fairer. That is just attraction at first sight. Then again even if we spend a little time together how can you be sure that it is in fact love, it may be nothing more than infatuation.
When I say ‘I don’t believe in love at first sight’ may be I can also extend it a bit further to ‘I don’t believe in hate at first sight’. How many times I interact with people for just a few seconds and develop hate at first sight. Shouldn’t I give them a second chance ?
Knowing that I am a causal being living in a much larger causal system, may be I can give a little thought on not only the effects but also the causes.
September 1st, 2008 at 4:56 pm
Indeed, people often make their own mental projections of things and expect it to be true. Something like how can one see a cloud in the shape of an elephant and hope it to be same; A cloud does change its shape with the wind!